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Untrickled by Michelle Teheux's avatar

You’ve really put your finger on something here!

I am not sure I can really pull off “hot” at my age but I can pull off “professional” or “interesting” or “well put together” when I feel like it. But I hardly ever feel like it! I work from home. It’s me and the dogs. My husband likes me regardless.

Lately I’ve been posting pics in which I have not taken time to glam up. I wish we’d normalize this.

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Robin Wilding's avatar

Pfft, nice try Michelle. I saw you on the live the other day, your hair and skin looking radiant, and you showing off those sexy thighs. But I'm sure your husband does like you regardless.

I wish we'd normalize posting bad pictures. Even un-glam pics people still post the good ones. When the reality is that most of them look like awkward video stills (I know that can't just be me haha).

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Untrickled by Michelle Teheux's avatar

Ha!

I will shoot 9 million pictures and find the one best angle.

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Kristi Keller 🇨🇦's avatar

Ditto to the max. I CAN do it but most times I'm like, "why bother!" My dog doesn't care and I only work at home with her so.....

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Robin Wilding's avatar

Ooh yes--our dogs don't care! Although my dog gets super excited when I put anything without holes in it on, she knows it means I'm going outside and might take her with me.

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Untrickled by Michelle Teheux's avatar

I have been known to sneak into another room to get dressed so as not to get my dog’s hopes up. (I have two dogs, but only one is smart. Love them both, but Cashew is no genius! Mr. Joe is.)

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Dave Puckett's avatar

Seeing your photo on here, I'd say you are "hot" which I'm sure your husband tells you...and I tell my wife she is all the time but she never believes me, until we were at a restaurant in Indianapolis and she got up and walked to the rest room. On the way a man stopped her and said: "You are quite beautiful" She was surprised, when she got back to our table she told me about the encounter. I told her: "What have I been telling you?" :-) so if your husband tells you this -- believe him.

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Julia Fogg's avatar

Every one at every age can be hot 💕 Over 18/19, that is…

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Charles Bastille's avatar

Not fair. You cheated by making a silly face in the no-makeup pic. You look fab no matter what. For a Canadian. Especially in blue dresses.

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Robin Wilding's avatar

For a Canadian 😆. Thanks Charles. But I think the silly face actually helps my hot mess pic look better haha

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Robot Bender's avatar

Oh, the Rich and Famous(tm) dress down all the time when they don't want to be noticed. I saw quite a few of them without their glamor on in my airline days. Some of them were almost unrecognizable. Lynda Carter could never pull that off, though. She's like a periscope in a calm sea, that one. (Very sweet lady)

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Robin Wilding's avatar

It's nice to know Lynda Carter was a nice lady, since that's how I picture her. :)

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Jan M. Flynn's avatar

I feel so much better right now about hanging out in my pilling yoga pants and my yogurt-splotched hoodie — I'm simply recharging my hotness! At my stage in life, it takes a little more time than it used to, but the upside is that the contrast is far more pronounced when I decide it's worth it to get my cosmetic shit together. Thanks for the permission, Robin!

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Robin Wilding's avatar

food-stained hoodies are just well-seasoned hoodies :)

Ooh yes--the contrast! Great point Jan.

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Kristi Keller 🇨🇦's avatar

Hahaha Jan, I love "recharging" 😁😁 And I've seen you on Zoom...you're gorgeous. Something tells me you don't have to do much work to get there.

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Jan M. Flynn's avatar

You're TOO kind, Kristi -- but I'll take it!

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Heidi L's avatar

Wait until you hit your late 50s - early 60s. That's when IDGAF kicks into high gear. Bras become optional for all but the most high-end occasions, as does mascara. My one concession to maintenance is having my brows tinted every 12 or so weeks, so I actually look human and don't have to update them daily.

Best part - my awesome husband of 25 years who is fully supportive of all of the above.

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Robin Wilding's avatar

Ooh I look forward to it Heidi! Although I've given up on bras for the most part already, and mascara. My eyeballs gave up on it, so I went the same route you did and I get my eye lashes tinted. Well, I've done it once now, but I'll do it again.

Love that your husband is on board with it all! :)

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Brooke Craig's avatar

I’m with you on this too. I do get the urge to be more put together even for running errands every now and then but mostly I’m in slug mode. When I was a high school teacher, I dressed up more than other teachers usually (hopefully not considered hot, though, because Gross!). But now that I’m a self-employed decluttering expert who sometimes teaching fitness classes, why bother? I’m either digging around in someone’s dusty basement and hauling out bags and boxes of crap or I’m sweating in front of a few other women of a certain age.

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Robin Wilding's avatar

Slug mode, exactly. Also, your slug attire sounds perfect for your job!

Although I find it's easier to be a little less drabby during summer, just throw on an easy and comfy dress and you look more put together. It's still comfy, except for it not having motherfucking pockets.

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Alicia Brown's avatar

But Robin, dear, there are many comfy dresses with pockets!

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susan conner's avatar

Thank you for the spontaneous laughter you cause. 😂

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Dani's avatar

As a healthcare worker sometimes we have patients that are VIP, like well known celebs. Won’t say who, but one came through that wasn’t trying at all but looked just stunning completely natural. It was refreshing to see (and was a pleasant person). I’ve also encountered non-celebs that were trying too hard to over-makeup themselves and I’ve found myself restraining from eye rolling too hard.

But I’m with you, only doing myself up once in a while. Funny story: when my kids were much younger they saw me with makeup on before we were meeting family for a gathering. The oldest slumped his shoulders and asks “do I have to put on a nice shirt now?”… internally I was dying with laughter…

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Robin Wilding's avatar

During healthcare feels like that least likely time people would try hard to look good. But I guess to each their own. Interesting insight though, that's cool to hear.

😆😆😆 Kids are like owning a tiny mirror, with no filter.

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Lee Neville's avatar

100% Robin - all the time!

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Valerie Starr's avatar

It’s that upkeep that’s the killer. I mean if you look good one time people might expect that EVERY time. My definition of self care is anything that takes more than 3 steps is a tosser. I care enough about myself to just say no to more work.

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Robin Wilding's avatar

Ooh a 3-step-max rule, love that!

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JR Roessl's avatar

You are gorgeous. Even in my prime I couldn’t pull off the hotness thing, but I can surprise people when I bother to “clean up.”

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Robin Wilding's avatar

Pfft, mhhmmm. You forget that I've seen you on video and know that you're stunning :P

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Brad Smith's avatar

All you got to remember is, you can put sparkle in someone eye if you need to. But for now enjoy your couch.

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Robin Wilding's avatar

Nicely put, Brad.

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Naked Teez's avatar

Loved this!

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Paul Riddell's avatar

On that first picture, to quote Rik Mayall as Lord Flashheart, “WOOF!”

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Robin Wilding's avatar

😆😆 Thanks Paul.

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Jon Ofjord's avatar

Do you change personalities, too? I mean just to keep people guessing. Your story reminds me of the time my brother came to stay for a few days. He had never seen the ex first thing in the morning. When he asked, “Are you feeling okay?” she got angry. He was serious and so was she. It was hilarious and I was in the dog house for laughing so hard.

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Robin Wilding's avatar

I don't change my personalities....caffeine does.

That's hilarious, but also grrr. I've had many men say the same thing, that if I'm not put together, they think I'm sick. So I'm with the ex on putting you in the dog house, but also with you on the laughing cuz that is funny hehe

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Gillie's avatar

I met my future husband after only a few hours sleep and dressed from what was scattered next to my bed. But it was love at first sight, and often wonder what would have happened if I had dialed up to smoking hot. Which I could pull off back then. Now I’m happy if everything is clean, without stains and more or less looks normal

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Robin Wilding's avatar

Aww that's awesome. That feels like the more realistic way to meet somebody anyways, in our 'normal mode'. It certainly seems to have worked for you :)

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