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Peter T Hooper's avatar

12. They strive to improve. When they err, they admit their mistake and say, ‘I will do better.’

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Robin Wilding's avatar

Ooh yes--let's keep adding to the list here in the comments!! Love it Peter :)

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Linda Blatnik's avatar

13. They view the world as WE THE PEOPLE instead of I, this race, this religion, this gender, this nationality, etc.

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Peter T Hooper's avatar

Or, perhaps another way of putting it: Recognizing we are all in this together.

(As in… our species won’t survive unless we set aside old patterns of in-group exclusion and competition.)

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Linda Blatnik's avatar

That works.

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Christopher Manson's avatar

This is good info. I was expecting something else entirely. Much of this ties into my New Life. Thanks!

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Robin Wilding's avatar

I'm glad it ties into your New Life, I hope that's going well and you're rocking part of the list and paying attention to the ones you're not (like me, I'm still working on it hehe)

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Renay Oshop's avatar

Or just keep paying

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Christopher Manson's avatar

Yes and thank you ... the pluses definitely outnumber the minuses.

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Charlie Dice's avatar

Great read! The older I get, the less f#$%’s I give about things that don’t bring me or my loved ones joy. “I give selective f’s” needs to be on a tshirt.

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Robin Wilding's avatar

Thanks Charlie! I'd buy that t-shirt hehe

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Charlie Dice's avatar

Same!😂

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Renay Oshop's avatar

I give negative fucks at this point (evidently)

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Kristi Keller 🇨🇦's avatar

#11 is my favorite. I LOVE dragging people UP with me when I have somewhere to be. I want everyone to be successful at whatever it is they want, even if we are competitors!

Also...fuck bucket 🪣 is my new favorite saying.

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Robin Wilding's avatar

It's really the best move, you turn competitors into helpful colleagues!

I love 'fuck bucket' hehe, let's spread it around.

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Karen Michaels 🦋's avatar

Yesssss SAME!!

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Finn Tropy's avatar

My favorite word alchemist is on Substack!

Thank you for another great article, Robin.

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Robin Wilding's avatar

Aww thanks Finn!

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Gundy Walton's avatar

Very well thought out. I’m pondering as to where I fit in … there are a few. Sometimes you don’t recognize yourself until someone points it out. Thanks!

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Robin Wilding's avatar

I doubt many, if any, have the entire list together. I'm still working on a number of them myself. Just having the insight to see where you fit is a solid start though!

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Ice Cold's avatar

This was a really good read. A driver 💜🌹🐾❤️🤛🏻

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Robin Wilding's avatar

Thank you Robert! 💜

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Rob Kelly's avatar

Thanks for your thoughts and observations, Robin. Hope you have an Unfuckedwith Day! I can't wait to try out that departing salutation, instead of "have a nice day".

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Robin Wilding's avatar

Thanks Rob! Although I think to have an Unfuckedwith Day you'd have to be alone on an island hehe

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Rob Kelly's avatar

You're right! I underestimated the ability of humans to Notfuckwithy'all! An unpopulated island is a required context!

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Rena Robinett's avatar

Thank you. This is a great compilation of very useful truths about what to strive for as a human. I needed the reminder today. I have things on this list that come to me more naturally and others I have to work on continuously. Even at 75, being human is a continual challenge.

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Robin Wilding's avatar

Learning to human well assuredly is a lifelong affair Rena!

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Dr. Axel Meierhoefer 🏕️🔥's avatar

Awesome. I make that a goal. It was nice to see that I have some of the 11 already mastered 😉

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Robin Wilding's avatar

Thanks Dr Axel! That's what I love about this list, we have some of the items mastered but most people can pick at least one thing to work on. I have more than one I'm working on hehe.

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Mona's avatar

Love this. Excellent observations and perfectly explained.

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Robin Wilding's avatar

Thank you Mona! :)

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KHolbekistan's avatar

Great list

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Robin Wilding's avatar

Thanks Kate! :)

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Sheila (of Ephemera)'s avatar

I aspire to be Unfuckwithable! And I follow or do many of the things on this list. I worked in retail for 14 years- hell, yes, I will judge you on how you treat that minimum wage worker! Letting go of the little distractions and focusing on what really matters (which is connections with others), being kind, and lifting others…this is what I focus on.

I LOVE this list, Robin. Also, now I have K-OS’ “Crabbucket” stuck in my head.

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Robin Wilding's avatar

hell yes, I just people based on how they treat minimum wage workers. It shows so much about their true character, but also their understanding of the world. If they're expecting caviar service at mcnugget pricing, from people with their own struggles, they aren't realistic.

Great, now I have K-OS in my head too. Thanks. lol

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Sheila (of Ephemera)'s avatar

You started it (crab in the bucket)! 😉

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Robin Wilding's avatar

I start a lot of things 😆

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Sheila (of Ephemera)'s avatar

Okay, I have to stop replying or we’ll look like those two people cackling in the corner at a party. 🎈

But do you finish things? Speaking as a notorious dabbler…*snort*

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Christie Sausa, MS's avatar

Totally agree. Give selective f’s is the most important for me. The pandemic was/is horrible but gave me the time to really see what mattered most and ditch the rest. Giving up on building ego and giving yourself permission to do your own thing is a huge accomplishment. We should celebrate letting go more in my opinion.

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Kelly Rundel's avatar

Love it, Thank You! 🤸

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Bahamabean's avatar

Feeling SUCH affinity with the “Unfuckwithable” crowd! You are my people!! 👏🥰

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Robin Wilding's avatar

It's definitely the best crowd to surround yourself with! 🤘

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